Lenny's PodcastYou know why kids act out more? It's not because they're taking advantage of you. It's because they feel that much more dysregulated because they don't feel like there's an adult in the room who's willing to put a container on their shell-less egg to help them come back together.
“I think about just people that don't have parents that are there and always seek, like, someone in as their partner that's more I don't know.”
Is there an adult here who will help me, who sees that this is my form of acting out and being out of control, and will somebody help me? And you know why kids act out more? It's not because they're taking advantage of you. It's because they feel that much more dysregulated because they don't feel like there's an adult in the room who's willing to put a container on their, like, shell less egg
to help them come back together and move forward in a better direction. I think about just people that don't have parents that are there and always seek, like, someone in as their partner that's more I don't know. That gives them that Yeah. Later.
Why this clip
Directly challenges the conventional assumption that kids act out to manipulate adults. The 'shell-less egg' metaphor is vivid and memorable, making complex child psychology accessible. This reframes a universal parenting frustration with scientific backing.
What they said next
Connection is what forms a bridge between two people so they can act together in the same interest. So whether you're thinking about your kid not listening or thinking about things at work, connection first.
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